Sex in the Stance of Youngsters

Teenage pregnancies... abortions...

... things related to "human sexuality".

Many people are misguided by the term, "human sexuality". Most say that it is just about the intercourse between a man and a woman. Some say that it is just for pleasure... and some, just for intimacy. They do not look at a broader view of what human sexuality really means. They just focus on one type of human sexuality which is: gender sexuality.

There are three types of human sexuality as mentioned in the talk; they are as follows:

1. Primary- this is refers to two sexes: man and woman

2. Affective- this refers to the feelings that we have for a person. It is associated with emotions.

3. Gender- as mentioned earlier, this is the type of human sexuality which people often focused at. 

Human sexuality is a gift from God; therefore, it is sacred. We must not only focus on gender sexuality; we must also take into consideration the other types of sexuality, the primary and affective human sexuality.

Generally, the talk was educational. It gave us a broader knowledge about human sexuality and things related to it.  There were lots of discussions about premarital sex, teenage pregnancies, abortions, and the like. There was a  film that shocked us, and this was the film about a woman giving birth. This showed us that it is not easy for a woman to give birth; thus, it is never easy for a woman to become a mother.The talk also dealt with dilemmas that teenagers usually encounter. Some teenagers in their early age, enter into intimate relationships that often cause them to engage in sexual activities such as premarital sex. They  believe that engaging in such activities will make them go with the "society's trend". They think that doing such things will satisfy their need for intimacy, belongingness, and curiosity. They do not consider the disadvantages of their irresponsible behavior. These teenagers don't realize that  premarital sex will make their life miserable, it leads to more negative habits to unlearn, and it may lead to teenage pregnancy.

The following are some reasons why teenagers are involved in premarital sex:

1. An adolescent is afraid that s/he might lose the relationship.

Teenagers think that if s/he will refuse to do the "thing" with his/her partner s/he would be left alone. They think that once they are left by their partner, no one would love and care for them anymore.

2. An adolescent imagines that sex is part of the society's trend.

Teenagers are being influenced by the society by making them think that "everybody's doing it". They do not want to appear old fashion or "square".

 

3. An adolescent wants to prove that he is a real man or that she is a real woman.

Popularity is one of the reasons why teenagers engage in such things. They thinks that if s/he had tried to have sex with his/her partner, s/he would be praised by his/her peer group. S/he thinks that they will be proud of him/her.

4. An adolescent thinks that s/he "owes" it to the other person.

Teenagers think that sex is a form of returning or giving back the "love" that they gain from their partner . They believe that it is the best "gift" that they can give for their partner.

5. An adolescent feels pressured or intimidated.

Teenagers seek to gain affection and warmth. They may think that engaging in premarital sex is a way to cope with stress. Some of them think that with it, they could get over with their problem. Rebellion is also one reason why they try to do the "thing".

6. An adolescent is curious.

I think that this is the main reason why teenagers engage themselves in premarital sex. They try to imitate what they have seen, read, or watched. They try to experiment and explore the things that they merely know.

   

7. An adolescent thinks that it is the next step in a relationship.

Teenage couples think that sex is a way of proving their love for one another. They think that it is just right for them to do it because they "love" each other very much. They do not think of the effects of their wrong actions; what is important for them, is that they had expressed their love for each other.

8. An adolescent can't help himself/herself.

Teenagers can't resist the call of temptation, the call of pleasure. They just do it for fun. 

We must always make right decisions. We must be aware that engaging in such immoral things will make our life miserable; it could ruin our life, our ambitions, our future. We should think a million times before doing an act so that in the end there will be no regrets. 

As they say: "Nasa huli ang pagsisisi"...

Sex in the Stance of Youngsters by Lady Shaira 'Shai' Abuan is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.
Based on a work at shaimemylifeandyou.blogspot.com.